Yourself in Life
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By Celestine Chua
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“The key to wisdom is knowing all
the right questions.” – John Simone
What questions do you ask yourself every day?
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Believe it or not, the kind of questions you ask
determine the kind of life you lead. That’s
because your questions trigger its own set of
answers, which lead to certain emotions, which
then lead to certain actions (or inactions),
followed by results. If you ask yourself limiting
questions, you’ll get limited results. If you ask
yourself mind-opening, forwarding questions,
you’ll gain a lot more out of them.
Some people like to ask questions like “Why am I
so unlucky?”, “What if I had done this earlier?”
and “Why am I always in such a situation?”.
Because these questions are backward looking,
the answers you get with them are naturally
disempowering. On the other hand, questions like
“What can I learn from this experience?”, “What
can I do differently move forward?” and “What am
I grateful for?” are empowering. They provoke you
and get you thinking, putting you on the path to a
better life.
If you’re someone who normally doesn’t self-
reflect, you might be stumped by questions.
However, this is perfectly normal. I remember
when I was a primary school student, the teacher
asked us how we would describe ourselves. The
question got me stumped, because I had never
thought much about it. It took me some time to
find some meaningful adjectives to describe
myself, but even then they didn’t seem right. That
was one of the starting points of my self-
exploration journey. Somewhere along the way, I
became a big fan of introspection, enjoying the
process of self-reflecting and thinking over
questions.
Today, I believe questions are a key to self-
awareness and personal growth. In my 1-1
coaching sessions, I enable my clients to discover
the answers to their goals/questions by asking
them the right questions. It’d be easy if I just tell
my coachees what they “should” do and what they
“should not” do. But that’s not the point. It’s
about empowering my clients to discover
themselves through asking the right guiding
questions, catered to their situation and their
profiles. The right questions will help them
untangle the blockages in them and connect with
their inner self .
It doesn’t matter if you get stumped in the
beginning, or if you don’t know the answers to the
questions at first. Our minds are boundless. Just
because you don’t get an answer immediately, it
doesn’t mean there are no answers. The answers
are there — it’s just that your mind is too foggy
since you’ve not consulted it before. The more
you ask, the clearer your mind will be, and the
more ready you’ll be to receive the answers.
Here are 101 important questions for your self-
reflection, by yours truly. Many are questions that
I ask my 1-1 clients during our coaching sessions
to help them uncover their inner self. These
questions will help you focus on what’s important
to you and what you want. They are not meant to
be answered all at one shot — they are to be
reflected duly over time, as part of your growth
journey. Pick out a few questions to reflect on
today, then bookmark and check back a week
later to think over the others. Check back regularly
to reflect on the questions.
Remember, there is no one final answer. It’s a
continuous discovery process. Your answers to
the questions today will be different from your
answers one month, three months, six months,
and one year down the road. Add these important
questions to your weekly review sessions. This is
a highly important article for your growth journey.
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Here they are:
1. Who are you?
2. What are you passionate about?
3. What are the achievements you are most
proud of?
4. What are you most grateful for in life? (Day 14
of Live a Better Life in 30 Days Program is
about expressing gratitude.)
5. What are the most important things to you in
life?
6. How would you describe yourself?
7. What are your values? What do you represent?
What do you want to embody? (Day 15 of Live
a Better Life in 30 Days Program is about
identifying your values.)
8. Do you love yourself?
9. … Why or Why not?
10. How can you love yourself more today?
11. What is your ideal self? What does it mean to
be your highest self?
12. Look at your life now. Are you living the life of
your dreams?
13. If you have one year left to live, what would
you do ?
14. If you have one month left to live, what would
you do?
15. If you have one week left to live, what would
you do?
16. If you have one day left to live, what would
you do?
17. If you have an hour left to live, what would you
do?
18. If you have one minute left to live, what would
you do?
19. What would you do today if there is no more
tomorrow?
20. What are the biggest things you’ve learned in
life to date?
21. What advice would you give to yourself 3
years ago?
22. If you are yourself 1 year from the future, how
would you advise the you now? (On Day 22
of Live a Better Life in 30 Days Program , we
travel to the future to give advice to the us
today.)
23. Is there something you’re still holding on to?
Is it time to let it go?
24. What are you busy with today? Will this matter
1 year from now? 3 years? 5 years?
25. What are your Quadrant 2 tasks?
26. What opportunities are you looking for?
27. How can you create these opportunities?
28. What are your biggest goals and dreams?
29. What’s stopping you from pursuing them? …
Why? How can you overcome them?
30. If you are to do something for free for the rest
of your life, what would you want to do?
31. What would you do if you cannot fail; if there
are no limitations in money, resources, time or
networks?
32. What do you want to achieve 1 year from now?
33. … 3 years?
34. … 5 years?
35. … 10 years?
36. How important are these goals to you?
37. What if these goals are doubled? Tripled?
Magnified by 10? How would you feel? Would
you prefer to achieve these or your previous
goals?
38. Who are the people who have achieved similar
goals? … What can you learn from them?
39. Are you putting any parts of your life on
hold ? … Why?
40. What’s the top priority in your life right now?
41. What are you doing about it?
42. If you were to die tomorrow, what would be
your biggest regret? What can you do now to
make sure that doesn’t happen?
43. For every experience you get: What are the
biggest things you have learned?
44. How can you do this better the next time?
45. If you have 1 million dollars, what will you do
with it?
46. Do you love your job?
47. What is your ideal career?
48. How can you start creating your ideal career
starting today?
49. What is your ideal diet?
50. What do you need to do to achieve your ideal
diet?
51. What is your ideal home like?
52. What do you need to do to achieve your ideal
home?
53. What is your ideal physical look ?
54. What do you need to do to achieve your ideal
physical look?
55. What is your ideal life?
56. What can you do to start living your ideal life?
57. What would you want to say to yourself 1 year
in the future?
58. … 3 years?
59. … 5 years?
60. … 10 years?
61. What do you fear most in life?
62. Is there anything you are running away from?
63. Are you settling for less than what you are
worth? … Why?
64. What is your inner dialogue like? (Day 26 of
Be a Better Me in 30 Days Program is about
uncovering your limiting thoughts.)
65. What limiting beliefs are you holding on to?
66. Are they helping you achieve your goals?
67. If not, is it time to let them go?
68. What empowering beliefs can you take on to
help you achieve your goals?
69. What bad habits do you want to break?
70. What good habits do you want to cultivate?
71. What are the biggest actions you can take
now to create the biggest results in your life?
72. Where are you living right now – the past,
future or present?
73. Are you living your life to the fullest right
now?
74. What is the meaning of life?
75. What is your purpose in life ? Why do you
exist? What is your mission?
76. How can you make your life more meaningful,
starting today?
77. What drives you?
78. What are the times you are most inspired,
most motivated, most charged up?
79. What did you do during those times? How can
you do more of that starting today?
80. How can you change someone’s life for the
better today?
81. Who are the 5 people you spend the most
time with ?
82. Are these people enabling you or holding you
back?
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83. What qualities do you want to embody? (Refer
to Q7: Values and Q11: Ideal Self) Where can
you meet people who embody these qualities?
84. Who inspire you the most?
85. How can you be like them?
86. What is your ideal life partner like?
87. Where can you find him/her?
88. How can you get to know him/her?
89. Are you afraid of letting others get close to
you?
90. … Why?
91. Who is/are the most important person(s) to
you in the world?
92. Are you giving them the attention you want to
give?
93. How can you spend more time with them
starting today?
94. What kind of person do you enjoy spending
time with?
95. How can you be this person to others?
96. Who do you want to be like in 1 year?
97. … 3 years?
98. … 5 years?
99. … 10 years?
100. Who are your mentors in life? (formal or
informal)
101. What is one thing you’re going to do
differently after reading this article?
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